Why Vulnerability Is the Missing Piece in Your People-Pleasing Recovery

For many recovering people-pleasers especially Gen X women who’ve spent years juggling everyone else’s needs vulnerability can feel risky. We’ve been conditioned to keep the peace, smooth things over, and avoid rocking the boat.

But what if the very thing we shy away from is actually the key to real freedom, healthy emotional boundaries, and stronger self-worth?

What Makes Vulnerability So Powerful?

• It breaks down the mask you wear. When you stop saying what you think others want to hear, you start showing up as your authentic self.
  

• It builds self-trust. Each honest conversation reminds you that you can handle discomfort without sacrificing who you are.
  

• It deepens connection. Being genuine draws the right people closer and strengthens relationships.
  

3 Practical Steps to Practise Vulnerability

1. Get Honest with Yourself First

Before you speak your truth, take a moment to journal or simply acknowledge your feelings. Clarity inside helps you communicate clearly outside.

2. Start Small and Safe

Share your truth with someone you trust. For example:

• “I’m finding this a bit tough and could use some support.”

• “Honestly, I need some quiet time tonight.”

These small acts help you learn how to stop pleasing people without guilt.

3. Detach from the Outcome

Your role is to be honest, not to control how others respond. This mindset is key to setting healthy emotional boundaries.

A Gentle Invitation to Practise

• Swap one automatic “I’m fine” for an honest feeling.

• Notice the relief when you stop filtering yourself.

• Celebrate every time you put your needs first, no matter how small.

Need support? Download the free Vulnerability Worksheet with prompts and reflections to guide you.

Ready for a Deeper Detox?

If you’re over putting everyone else first, the 7-Day People-Pleaser Detox is your perfect next step. In just one week you’ll:

• Spot and interrupt people-pleasing triggers

• Practise simple boundary scripts

• Reclaim your time, energy, and confidence

Click here to get started, it’s free, plus you can save up to $50 if you decide to continue with the full 21-day programme.

Want Personalised Support?

I have two coaching spots opening in May 2025. If you’re ready to break free from the cycle and step into your full potential, book a free Clarity Call and let’s chat about what’s possible for you.